In defense of the so-called "miscommunication trope"

I missed a month--November--in posting. Alas!
In my defense, between my disappointment and worry and fear about the election results (which I expect will bring about harm to the vast majority of us), a bunch of holiday preparations, playing around with my website and social media images and branding, AND a writing retreat from which I've just returned, I guess it would have been more surprising if I'd managed to make a post!
Anyway, what I wanted to do is post a brief defense of the so-called "miscommunication trope." 
The main points I want to make are:
1) The name is misused and the label is applied incorrectly to far too many stories; 
2) Miscommunications are the norm in everyday life and relationships, and therefore should be expected in any story with realistic characters.
I was always told that the miscommunication trope is a feeble attempt to inject conflict when no REAL conflict exists in a plot (i.e., a story in which the only thing keeping lovers apart is some silly misunderstanding that could be easily resolved by a single simple conversation). For this reason, I don't consider my stories to have the miscommunication trope. In Curves for Days, Angus's mistaken assumption about Rose's financial situation is the only thing that allows him to fall for her. He has a very real aversion to relationships in which he can't be sure he's doing his share, and if he HAD known about Rose's money, he would never have ventured past a contractor/client relationship. This is the very opposite of a miscommunication trope.
In What She's Having, there are a few times in which July and Joe misunderstand each other, but those are not the thing keeping them apart. July is terrified of giving in to a relationship, for fear of failing everyone and everything she cares about and destroying herself in the process. Joe is desperately wounded by July's actions at one point, and unwilling to trust her at all for quite a while. Again, real conflicts, and therefore not a miscommunication trope.
And in my forthcoming Hard to Get, again there is real conflict, in that neither Andi nor Kevin is ready for a relationship early in the book, for very different reasons. They have to spend a lot of time growing into people who are ready for the trust and commitment a relationship entails (I'm hoping no one will say that the miscommunication trope applies to their story, but at this point, who knows?).
The other thing I would say, my stories aside, is that we misunderstand each other and miscommunicate ALL THE TIME, to various degrees, with various consequences. Sometimes we mishear a word in filling someone's request, and as a result we get an order or a gift wrong. Sometimes we misremember someone's name or occupation, or we get them confused with someone else. Sometimes we make up whole storylines to explain to ourselves why someone acts a particular way, and we operate off those assumptions in our future interactions. Sometimes we catch people having a bad day (or a very good day) and we assign motives and feelings to them based on behaviors that are atypical for them. LIFE is one long false assumption, faulty hearing, misattribution of intent, and projection of our own securities. If I ever write a story in which no one ever misspeaks or miscommunicates or misunderstands at least one other person, I want you to say to me, "Laura, now you KNOW that's not realistic."
So although it shocked me and took me aback to see people saying my first two stories are based on a miscommunication trope, I disagree, and I stand by them. My characters are really kind, generous people, but they're not perfect, and like the rest of us, they aren't born fully grown and knowing everything from the start without fail. The POINT is for them to grow past their differences, to grow together.